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The Crone

Sep 5, 2013

13 years ago I was a grad student in a spiritual/transpersonal psychology program with Sofia. For one of my courses I bought a book called The Crone. For the past many years I have offered women’s rites of passage ceremonies as part of my life’s work. I am a trained ceremonialist and through this journey of ceremony and ritual, I have come to see how essential it is to honor our life passages. Without proper acknowledgement of the stages of our lives women often find themselves floundering, unsure of what to do next, what to be, how to be. Sometimes they feel stuck in an earlier stage and can’t move past it. The hallmarks that emerge are restlessness, lack of clarity of purpose, depression and confusion.

Ceremony and ritual clear the path, they open the door, honor the individual and the collective. One of the rite of passage ceremonies that I offered in my work with private clients and with guests at Canyon Ranch was honoring the croning phase of the woman’s journey. Culturally, we aren’t crazy about the crone. Every woman at a certain age in this culture is supposed to turn her face away from aging. If you haven’t already noticed from the advertising, being lifted, supported, smoothed, tucked up or over and otherwise preserved in some way is what the culture demands of its crones. And if you don’t make yourself look like you are 30 you become invisible to the rest of our society.

The crone ceremony became very popular in my work because it filled a deep need and longing to welcome in the deep wisdom. The ceremony honored women who wanted to move into their rightful place of power of that stage.

As I write this, I am 42 and for a while I did wonder if I should be guiding women through the croning passage that I myself have not moved through. I spoke with some wise crones about this and one wonderful, supportive wise man about it to have a counterpart view. I was encouraged to continue and the women kept showing up asking. I listened to this because while I don’t understand all the workings of this Great Mystery, I understand enough now to know that when the knock comes – best to open the door.

This morning, I picked up the book, The Crone, once again. I have flipped through it many times through the past years. Today however was the first time that I saw the inscription from the previous owner on the very first page. ‘Wise Woman, you inherit this story now, you who acknowledge no other master than the divine.’

Lisa Redstone

Lisa Redstone is a contemporary wisdom teacher known for her ability to affect immediate and lasting change in the lives of those with whom she works. Her deeply practical, spiritual approach has been refined throughout her 20+ years of study in eastern, western, and indigenous healing practices and traditions. Lisa's work focuses on helping us to connect with our deepest wisdom so that we can live richer and more meaningful lives. Lisa has worked with thousands of people including award-winning celebrities and leading CEO's, those in major life transitions and regular folk wanting to learn how to navigate the stressors of modern life with practical, spiritual tools. Lisa has a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology, is a certified clinical hypnotherapist and she trained in the Science of Intuition Program taught by Drs. Caroline Myss and Norman Shealy. Prior to moving to the San Francisco Bay area, Lisa was a spiritual program provider, speaker, spirit lodge and workshop facilitator at the acclaimed Canyon Ranch Health Resort in Tucson, Arizona. She works with private clients, groups and companies teaching her grounded spirituality method called, The Redstone Way.

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