Patience is a means of relaxing and calming the mind in order for things to fall in place. It does not make you good or bad. In order to have understanding you must remain calm. Peacefully discuss the matter at hand. Frustration only cause frustrated results. A child's mind does not see the necessity of certain things. It is a developed expectation set in place by adults to conform to their views of acceptability. They are purely driven by their own desires. Thus the differing points of view from family to family. Neither is right or wrong, just a product of their past upbringing. People find peace in both cleanliness and chaos. Frustration is found in the act of forced conformation.